For many of us the end of the year is a time to reflect on where we have been and to contemplate where we will be. If you will, it's an excuse to weigh ourselves, to size up our victories and our failures, our weaknesses and strengths and to determine our self worth.
We all do it... whether we admit or not. We look in the mirror, we look in the checkbook, we look in the driveway, we look at our kids, dogs, homes and jobs and then more often than not... we sigh... and start beating ouselves up. I should've done this, I could've done that, I need to lose weight, gain muscle, lose grey, find green etc etc etc.
I want to encourage you NOT to look at or into any of the afore mentioned things this New Year. I want you to bypass all the crap that your mind is telling you and I want you to see your heart... the real you. Your mind compares you to the computer & media generated life styles of the rich & famous. You can never live up to that... it's not real.
You on the other hand are quite real and quite valuable. You are absolutely wonderful and that is the truth regardless of what your mind is telling you. No one else cares what size your pants are, how many wrinkles you have, what kind of car you drive, how much grey is really there or if you have money in the bank. Most of us, and your friends and family just care about you. We love you, we like you and we want to hang out with you... not your stuff.
During this season of reflection I want you to reflect on and agree with this... I am wonderful... I am special... I am beautiful... I am accepted... and I am loved! If you disagree... that's ok... but you are wrong! I see you that way and most likely many others see you that way as well... and whether you can hear it or not your heart is saying, "Yes, yes yes!"
My hope and prayer for 2009 is that we will each see ourselves as we really are and love ourselves more than ever before. If that sounds selfish... it's not... you see we love others the way we love ourselves... so if we are not patient, kind, forgiving and longsuffering with ourselves... we won't be that way with others.
Happy New Year to each of you and may the eyes of your hearts be opened to see how wonderfully loved and accepted you are!
I leave this quote and challenge with you for 2009...
“Love yourself — accept yourself — forgive yourself — and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.”
—Dr. Leonardo Buscaglia (1924-1998); professor, author